Another reaching out for distant possibilities ‘post’, if you will. I read an interview of Alexander Skarsgard, who plays vampire Eric Northman on True Blood. He is in his mid-30’s, Swedish and his father is Skellan Skarsgard (who has starfish growing out of his cheek in Pirates of the Caribbean 2, I think, and who plays the bullish math professor in Good Will Hunting. AND Goya in Goya’s Ghosts. It was very good.)
Alexander Skarsgard is a TV actor, mostly, and his home is Sweden. He talks about his work schedule, it is very gruelling and about staying with friends in LA and not wanting family right now. And well, how attractive that was. To be tall and work hard and alone. To be free of the compulsion to settle down, if ever. To do it tomorrow or when it came along. To not even have children, if it didn’t work for you. Even if children were beautiful and a nice thing to look forward to.
And I saw House, the first episode of the season finale of 5 where he begins to hallucinate. And there’s Cuddy, who is very much in love with him. And he is in his 40’s and she going to be, and they are still falling in love. She is. And he lives alone and he is, as David Shore says, incredibly self-aware and he has fears. He hangs on by a slim thread.
God, I shall not live by stereotype. I don’t think they make me happy. They are pretty, people with nice children and falling asleep sharing nitty gritties with a husband. But I don’t want em, not in that combination and not now. I am 26 and I am a little scared even to write this, at how big the words are. But I hope I live up to them.

Was Chatwin a bit of an Orientalist, I mean in believing that the East stood for mysticism, where he would find a life that would be different from the frenetic pace of the west? Did he feel trapped in the torpor of the war that swung around him and did he find sunshine in cultures that lived unaffected by the Europe’s turmoil? I was reading a random page of The Songlines and the well, compulsive quoting from texts (very lovely, mind you) felt like a mind working frenetically to find a way out, to make sense.
Reading from a random page was soothing, without the compulsion of having to follow a storyline, but then, probably he felt that way too, the need to cut loose?
What I long for greatly now is to find my way to a small town in the Deep South like Bon Temps. I might hate it, never mind, but it seems so attractive perhaps because it has no frame of reference to my current life. I hate to say perhaps. I know that is the reason. I hate to have to give an adult explanation for a longing that sounds juvenile, otherwise.
But, well, what Chatwin says, that wandering is not the sign of neurosis, dissatisfied sexuality, but natural? What can I say? When I think of places away from home, I don’t think of forging ties, of friends (if I am lucky, perhaps), I think of a quiet heart, one that does not rage against its present, that walks in silence, utterly soothed by the sights it sees, the people it meets, without feeling the need to touch them, to form life-long bonds with them.
Is that the flaneur? Perhaps not. I dunno, it’s ok if it ain’t.
Here’s a few from Chatwin:

“Psychiatrists, politicians, tyrants are forever assuring us that the wandering life is an aberrant form of behaviour; a neurosis, a form of unfulfilled sexual longing; a sickness which, in the interests of civilization, must be suppressed.
Nazi propagandists claimed that gypsies and Jews – peoples with wandering in their genes – could find no place in a stable Reich.”

“A very brief life of Diogenes:
He lived in a tub. He ate raw octopus and lupins. He said ‘Kosmopolites eimi’. ‘I am a citizen of the world.’ He compared his wanderings through Greece to the migration of storks: north in summer, south to avoid the winter cold.”

“We Lapps have the same nature as the reindeer: in the springtime we long for the mountains; in winter we are drawn to the woods.
- Turi’s Book of Lapland

I was subbing a copy on a science show. It dealt with pressure, density and vacuum and brought forth these images from Class VII, the terror, the rough-paper of the physics book with its killingly bland diagrams that today seems curiously maya makhano because I remembered baba drawing those experiments again and again to explain those principles to me. And they seemed so tough, so tough and baba would say, how can you find it boring? It’s so interesting, it explains everything. And pressure was a terror, and I was always a very average student, but I remember I did well in the class test and I remember the teacher’s opaque recitation of the principle, smooth voice and smoother handwriting and red lipstick. She thought she was explaining and the smart ones in class probably got stuff too, despite the bad teaching. But it seemed so like a puppet talking. I know because I have spoken like that sometimes, with my mind completely somewhere else, and people haven’t understood even though I wasn’t saying a thing wrong.
But think how pressure diagrams can seem so loving in recollection, even the fear and the hate.
Is literature, writing, feeling an exercise in indulgence? I thought I would leave all that behind, but it has gripped me again. And I am without any spine to deal with it except to take refuge in silence. Also, it seems so infernally stupid that I have nothing to say. So I choke with rage and sputter.
(the pic is a refraction diagram. Eta slightly easier chhilo)

I feel very very depressed. When will this ever end? When will I have, among other things, nice delicious sex?
But that’s not the worry exakly. What is, is how depressing everything. I am 26, not on the road to what I want to do. I want to quit and sit at home and then find something else to do, apply to begin with. If that doesn’t work, something else. I am tired of being cautious, of distrusting my instincts, of second-guessing myself constantly. We are all given what we deserve.
I got myself a beautiful blue book shelf, it’s huge, tall and wide.
I have a black, soft dog who looks at me demandingly, with complete conviction that I am the one she will go to for whatever it is she might be wanting. She yelled in rage when I came back home last night, at having been shut out for so long (two hours). She sleeps curled up on her paws at the foot of my bed and lies lazily on her stomach beside me, her fat tail erect after I have just woken up and am deciding to get out of bed.
I watched a serial about vampires and people yesterday. Six episodes back to back. The concept is awfully kinky, but the acting is quite awful, it’s so sad. They think they can pull it off by piling on the sex appeal and shut out every other aesthetic sense? But there’s also this town, Bon Temps, which is almost a village, really, and there’s this tremendous atmosphere: the black woman who is a complete drunk and a devout Jesus groupie, mane oi bhishon classic Bible belt stuff, like, who goes to an Obeah (that what they call traditional healers/ mystics???) to get the demon (the alcoholism) out of her. This Obeah drowns a caged possum, into whom the demon has passed into, in a tub of water. There are layabouts, like Jack Stackhouse, mama’s boys, over the hill, heavily-made-up, thrice-divorced waitresses. And then, ah then, there’s the vampire bar Fantasia and fang bangers, who like to hang out with vampires and being bitten by them. And True Blood, artificial bottled blood for vampires trying to go mainstream into society. There are vampire rights groups and staid vampires who watch TV and invite prostitutes for a shag in exchange for blood, a potent aphrodisiac and rich, spoilt hippie girls who are addicted to it.
Then there is the broad broad accent that’s wonderful. I really love it.
The title song is the kinkiest. I had initially thought it was real footage put together, but found they’d actually gone and shot it. Tar moddhe, there’s a shot of wall graphiti saying ‘God hates fangs’ and a newspaper headline saying ‘Angelina Jolie adopts vampire baby’. Both of these two were told me by the boy, which effectively lured me into wanting to watch the series. And then I armtwisted him into downloading the season for me as a birthday present. Sweet love, hahahahaha. So, he doesn’t like it, because it’s not interesting enough, which I see. It won’t hook you, or exhaust you like House, by engaging your head, emotions, curiosity at the same time, giving rise to a thousand possibilities. But oh, ah, I am sold on all of what I wrote before.
All of it so so kinky and only if there was a thaash bunot, it could be so much more. Eesh, aha re. Mane, the sexy vampire Bill Crompton looks like a complete addlehead, off his rocker, when he smiles dnaat ber kore. Karon, haashle toh dnaat berobei, so you can’t really help it. That’s unfortunate. And Anna Paquin’s always had very curious expressions, mismatched with what she’s saying. Now you know it’s just that she can’t act. Also so unfortunate. I want to think that southern 25-year-old women who can listen to other people’s thoughts are like that, mane, not earthy, sweaty, in-you-face like us. Perhaps they do have this kind of fogginess.

It’s a pitTy, really. I wish Alan Ball had directed it too.

I want to leave, dear whoever you are that is sunshine and all things hopeful, help me go away. I want to breathe, not feel mouldy dampness clinging to every breath I take, not struggle to talk, to think, because all that you do makes you want to bolt, revolts your senses.